By Nathan Adlam
Haters and critics occupy each and every dark crevice of the online world, armed with their biting words and relentless motivation to put others down.
Now more than ever, it’s easy to hate on and criticize others, from comfort and safety behind a computer screen. For some, hating is like a hobby.
Haters are like leeches. They latch onto you and suck away your hard-earned life and energy, relentlessly feeding themselves before moving on to the next target.
Maybe you have some haters. Maybe there’s a few people out there who can’t stand you and always seem to be looking for reasons to disapprove your behavior. How are you supposed to deal with this?
I’m here to tell you that there are ways to deal with haters. Like leeches, haters have weaknesses. Use the following tips to pour some salt on those leeches in your life and keep them powerless over you.
Haters do not add value to the world, they try to subtract it
One of my favorite quotes about haters comes from one of the most criticized professional athletes of recent times- LeBron James.
After losing to the Dallas Mavericks in the 2011 NBA Finals, LeBron faced heavy criticism from his haters. In his post-game press conference, he had this to say about them.
“At the end of the day, they have to wake up tomorrow and have the same life they had before they woke up today.”
Boom, what a powerful statement.
What he’s saying here is that yeah, haters are gonna hate, but at the end of the day, their life is going to be no different than it was before. They aren’t going to improve or change themselves, and they’re not going to add anything valuable to the world, just an opinion that in the grand scheme of things, means very little.
It’s hard to find a hater that also contributes a lot to the world at the same time. Those who live with a constructive mindset of love spend too much time figuring out how they can add to the world, and as a result, they don’t have much time or energy left for hating.
It’s important to note that there is a big difference between “hating” and “constructive criticism”. They can sound very similar and are often confused. People who constructively criticize you are those who want to see you add something to the world, while people who hate on you are those who try to prevent you from adding something.
Haters find fulfillment in hating
In life, we all search for purpose.
We all spend time searching for that one thing that powers us out of bed in the morning. We take part in activities that fulfill us. We crave that special-something that gives us that rush of feel-good chemicals on a consistent basis.
For some haters out there, they get that rush from hating on others. They get high from feeling superior to other people, and this little addiction is the only way they know how to survive.
When you realize that haters hatebecause that’s what fulfills them, you can start to almost feel sorry for them. At this point, they’ve lost a lot of power over you, simply because you have recognized that they feel good by making others feel bad.
That being said, hating on haters is not a good idea, and does nothing to decrease the amount of hate in the world.
Instead, why not try to understand these haters? It’s important to realize that often times their hating is nothing more than a jealousy of something really cool you’re doing. If so, then props to you.
Haters get uncomfortable when you raise your status
Haters get really uncomfortable when you try to raise your status. They like things the way they are, and when you take time to improve yourself, you become a huge threat to them.
Think of it this way. Instead of trying to add something to the world by raising their own floor, they prefer to lower the floors of everyone around them. This behavior adds nothing constructive to the world.
Haters have this scarcity mindset because they think the world is a zero-sum game. This means that there is “only so much to go around” and that if someone wins, someone else absolutely must lose out. Haters don’t like people elevating themselves because that means someone else has to lose out. And that someone else is usually them.
Just because haters have a problem with your self-development doesn’t mean that you should slow down. As long as you’re developing in a way that adds value to the world, you have nothing to be ashamed of.